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Family and Couples Therapy
515 Group, Family, and Couples Therapy TA B L E 13.3 Some “Rules for Talking” in Couples Therapy Many forms of couples therapy help partners improve communiby cation through establishing rules such as these. Think about your own experience in relationships or your observations of couples as they interact, and then write down some rules you would add to this list. Why do you think it would be important for couples to follow the rules on your list? doing 2 learn 1. Always begin with something positive when stating a problem. 2. Use specific behaviors rather than derogatory labels or overgeneralizations to describe what is bothersome about the other person. 3. Make connections between those specific behaviors and feelings that arise in response to them (e.g., “It makes me sad when you . . .”). 4. Admit your own role in the development of the problem. 5. Be brief; don’t lecture or harangue. 6. Maintain a focus on the present or the future; don’t review all previous examples of the problem or ask “why” questions such as “Why do you always . . .?” 7. Talk about observable events; don’t make inferences about them (e.g., say “I get angry when you interrupt me” rather than “Stop trying to make me feel stupid”). 8. Paraphrase what your partner has said, and check out your own perceptions of what was said before responding. (Note that this suggestion is based on the same principle as Rogers’s empathic listening.) about their attitudes and behavior. Fifth, perhaps through mutual modeling, the group experience makes clients more sensitive to other people’s needs, motives, and messages. Finally, group therapy allows clients to try out new skills in a supportive environment. Family and Couples Therapy family therapy A type of treatment involving two or more clients from the same family. couples therapy A form of therapy that focuses on improving communication between partners. As its name implies, family therapy involves treatment of two or more individuals from the same family. One of these, often a troubled adolescent or child, is the initially identified client. Whether family therapy is based on psychodynamic, humanistic, or cognitive-behavioral approaches, the family is usually considered as a functioning unit known as a family system. As with group therapy, the family therapy format gives the therapist an excellent view of how the initially identified client interacts with others, thus providing a basis for discussion of topics important to each family member. And as with group therapists, family therapists usually have special training that helps them understand how the problems of individual family members affect and are affected by problems in the complex interactions taking place within the family system as a whole (Beels, 2002; Pilling et al., 2002; Williams, 2005). Ultimately, the client in family therapy is the family itself, and treatment involves as many members as possible. In fact, the goal of family therapy is not just to ease the identified client’s problems but also to create greater harmony and balance within the family by helping each member understand family interaction patterns and the problems they create (Blow & Timm, 2002; Goldenberg & Goldenberg, 1995). In couples therapy, improving communication between partners is one of the most important targets of treatment (Christensen et al., 2004; Gurman & Jacobson, 2002). Discussion in couples therapy sessions typically focuses on identifying and improving the miscommunication or lack of communication that is interfering with the couples’ happiness and intimacy. Often, the sessions revolve around learning to abide by certain “rules for talking,” such as those listed in Table 13.3. For some therapists, helping couples become closer also means helping them to express emotions more honestly and to be more accepting of one another (Shadish & Baldwin, 2005; Wood et al., 2005). Some therapists even offer preventive treatment to couples who are at risk for relationship problems (Jacobson et al., 2000; Laurenceau et al., 2004). (“In Review: Approaches to Psychological Treatment” summarizes key features of the main approaches to treatment that we have discussed so far.)